It often happens that you find a man of your dream, discovers that he’s totally compatible with you and even shares some of your interests, but then he suddenly withdraws… Yes, that’s scary. You start ignoring the friends’ advice to check this dating website for older adults or some other resource in order to find a worthy ‘alternative’. All your thoughts are about how to make him stay closer. However, you don’t know how to do it the right way, so it wouldn’t look like you are forcing him… If so, you’ll definitely find the following tips useful.
- Realise that pulling back is absolutely natural for a man
Sometimes men tend to acquire a bit of private space, even though they are in love with someone. So, first things first, don’t take it personally. It’s just the inborn instincts and concerns start screaming inside of him. He may just be scared of losing himself and becoming some entirely different person. Don’t push him to explain what’s going on, just realise it’s normal and allow him to get over it by himself.
- Allow him to start missing you
Naturally, the more a woman is trying to lean in, the bigger is the gap between the two. Your primary thought is always to get as close to him as possible. Leave these attempts, even though it is hard. This will only result in his concerns growing wider. Instead, try acting as if you don’t notice it; let him see there’s nothing to be concerned of. Other words let a man deal with it and realise you are the one meant for him.
- Address directly to his heart through the feeling messages
There’s one thing you should remember – your words have power; a power to create and a power to ruin. Which of the two you choose depends on you. But we would recommend instead of giving him the rough side of tongue for not answering your previous calls to tell something warm like ‘I’m so happy to hear you’. Let him know you treat and love him the same as before and he’s got all chances to share this happiness with you. And soon enough you’ll notice how a single spark ignites the flames in his heart.